Occasionally doubting ourselves can help us perform better, make us more humble, and motivate us to give our best. However, without proper control, self-doubt can ruin our productivity, destroy our relationships, and sabotage our life. Here are three approaches to keep self-doubt to a healthy level.
First, use the “what if” method. Self-doubt always carries with it a flurry of negative thoughts. Use the “what if” method to balance the undesirable thoughts. For example: What if I wasn’t a failure? What if I worked harder to reach my dreams? These are effective questions that can help put in perspective the one-sided thoughts that characterize self-doubt.
Second, leave the negative emotions that accompany self-doubt alone. Our pessimistic view of the adverse emotions we experience when we doubt ourselves usually compounds its destructive effects. Thus, embrace self-doubt without blaming and whining and remind yourself, they too, shall pass.
Third, just get to work. It’s more difficult to harbour negative thoughts when you are busy working on yourself. So, start investing in yourself more. Self-care activities such as reading, exercising, meditating will go a long way. Remember, the goal isn’t to banish self-doubt, but to tame it and use it as fuel for improved performance.
Doubt your self doubter. For every failure or fault you dwell on, immediately give equal time to all you have done right. Getting up and ready for the day counts!
Exactly! There is always something positive to focus on! Thank you for your comment.
Hi Bachir, thanks for following me! 😊 What part of the world are you from? I’m in Phoenix Arizona.
I like your post. I don’t handle being offended very well. In fact, last Sunday, Jan 22, 2023, I wrote a long post about this problem! A dear friend said the best medicine is to tell the offender outloud “I forgive you” immediately. After reading that suggestion, I initially thought “I’m human and what living person can do this?” But now it is a few days later and I can’t get this advice out of my mind. It is so powerful. To the offending person, it will say “I forgive you for hurting me (and they will either apologize or make a note of their wrong possibly)”. And what it will do for me is immediately release me from the bondage of negative thoughts and I can go on with my day, pleasing and worshipping God. I haven’t been able to put this into practice yet. Hopefully someone will offend me today. Heehee 😅
Hi Marlagro, it’s nice always nice to connect with fellow bloggers. I am from Haiti and have been living in Taiwan for 11 years.
An yes you are right. Holding to anger is simply a weight that’s not worth carrying. It hurts us more than it hurts the other person. Life is too short to walk around with grudges. And yes, it’s easier said than done. But at least we are aware and willing to try.
Again thank you for coming and commenting:)
Hi! No one offended me today to try it out. Haha Nice to meet you my new friend!
😂 if you don’t hold grudges against anyone that means you are doing perfectly well. Some people carry grudges against people who have offended them after months or years.
It’s an absolute delight meeting you:)
Thanks for this. Insightful ideas to manage self doubt. Ideas I think most people will benefit from, from time to time 🙂
Thank you Reaseaorg for your kind words.
Very welcome 🙂
Good info. Thanks!
You’re welcome ☺️
Great info. I would add that the first step is to recognize that “self doubter” trait in us. Once we recognize and understand what we are doing and the effects it has on us, we can move on to correcting it.
Makes complete sense. Self-awareness leads to action which leads to desired results. Thanks for your insightful comment Susan.
Very useful tips Bachir.
Thank you Anil 🙏
Thank you for this post as well as for the follow. I appreciate the information within these words and my personal favorites are techniques two and three.
You’re welcome Angel. I am thankful for you taking your time reading visiting my blog, reading, and commenting.