This title may lead you to believe I’m a bit of a madman. I mean, who writes tips about ways to sabotage one’s life?

Maybe that’s some sorts of reverse psychology, who knows?

Awareness leads to action, which leads to change. Sometimes all we need to change our lives is to become aware of the problem. Therefore, this article’s primary objective, despite its bizarre title, is to make you aware of how we sabotage our lives so you can make a change if you want to.

So, what is wrong if someone chooses to sabotage their lives? Aren’t they free to do so?

Yes, absolutely! We are all free to choose to live our lives anyway we see fit.

Even God knows that when he created and put his free will in us, we would be free to deny or accept Him. That’s the meaning of Revelation 3:20: “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.”

That being said, you are free to reject or accept what’s written in here.

Feeding Our Mind Trash

We put effort into looking our best, but we clutter our minds with rubbish.

The average person spends two hours and 27 minutes on social media.

As an avid user myself, meaningful contents are usually not what I search for when I browse social media or watch TV.

I am not saying we should stop entertaining ourselves, but we must become more mindful of what we permit in our minds.

Just like a beautiful garden, it’s our duty to protect our minds from those elements that destroy.

Becoming mindful of the thoughts you allow yourself to think can help you be more creative and more at peace.

Doing Everything in Excess

Through my articles, I share techniques to help people set, reach, and maintain your heart’s most important goals.

I advocate to be fully present, disciplined, flexible and to learn, etc. Everyone would agree that these are valuable suggestions. But what happens when you are always wholly present? What about excessive learning? exaggerated discipline? disproportionate flexibility?

Just like excessive drinking, eating, sleeping can be fatal, taking those recommendations to the extreme can spell disaster.

By analogy, being disciplined refers to doing the right thing right, whereas being disciplined to the point of inflexibility refers to doing the right thing wrong.

Overindulgence, or what I call doing the right thing wrong, is a genuine concern that is so pervasive in our lives that we need to be mindful of its destructive effects on our life.

Moderation is the suggested approach if you decide to stop ruining your life in a world of overindulgence.

Constantly Criticizing Others

Are your achievements the yardstick of your self-worth? Do you judge your value based on your failures? Do you see yourself as inferior to others?

Fault-finding is destructive because it hampers our ability to build any meaningful social relationships critical to personal wellbeing.

Constantly belittling others reinforces our negative self-image and makes it harder to change it.

Fortunately, we can unlearn everything we find destructive. It may take time, but it’s possible. If sabotaging yourself is not your goal, then start treating others better.

“The great end of life is not knowledge but action.” –Francis Bacon 

Making Excuses

The little villain in our head: I know I should, but I… 

Expressed either in the voice in our heads, or verbally, this is one of the most destructive and pervasive sentence we use to justify our inaction or destructive behaviors.

By adding the preposition “but”, we are sending a clear message that we have given up trying to overcome our challenges.

I once coached a friend about relationship issues. After advising him, our conversation drifts into some of the good books he’d read.

I couldn’t believe he had read every single one of the influential books about relationships.

He clearly had a firm grasps on how to build effective relationships, and yet, he was making excuses for his inactions.

We can become so comfortable in our state of non-productivity that we may not act even if we know we should, and even if we see the potential rewards, we will not act.

Your current circumstance should make it clear to you that laziness never makes things happen. So, let the action you take following this article be the beginning of the journey you put an end to self-sabotage.


Do you want to keep sabotaging yourself? Well, the choice is yours. Choose wisely.

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