Are you experiencing a painful breakup? Ending a romantic relationship after one month or ten years, for the first or tenth time, is distressing.
Some people heal quickly, some slowly, and still others commit despicable acts against themselves or their partner.
There are strategies anyone can use to navigate those difficult times. After going through four painful breakups (excluding the minor ones) and assisting many through their own, I have developed five unique ways to help anybody get over their exes.
If you are ready to move on, this article will prove immensely helpful.
Table of Contents
Embrace and Process the Negative Emotions
People go to great lengths to deal with breakups. Whether it’s rebound sex, alcohol, smoking, people will stop at nothing, just fill the void created by the split from a partner.
I know from experience that those highs are a flash in the pan… The immediate pleasure they create isn’t only fugacious, they can also lead to permanent emotional strains to all parties involved. Don’t dodge the pain. Don’t hold back adverse emotional reactions such as tears, the urge to vent or even smash objects (get a sandbag).
Whether you find a trusted pal, a coach, or a counselor, don’t shy away from unloading your mental baggage. Facing those painful states will render them insignificant more quickly than otherwise.
Invest in Yourself
Processing negative emotions after a separation makes it hard to practise self-care. Instead of chasing temporary and short-lived pleasures, commit yourself to those habits that build you. Exercising, reading, or meditating, among others, may feel unappealing, but they’ll improve your self-esteem, which in return, will speed up the healing process.
Learn from the Breakup
Our life experiences, positive or negative, always carry a lesson, and a breakup is no different. Ask yourself: What can I get from this breakup? This simple question has allowed me to uncover lots of destructive behaviors that made me an undesirable partner after my painful breakup in 2016.
Since then, I have learned to be a more caring, less choleric, and more accepting person. These lessons helped not only me in my subsequent relationships, but they proved beneficial in every other aspect of my life.
You Will Find Another One
Most of us are trapped in a state of despair after a breakup because we can’t imagine our lives without our ex. Leave the cave now! No matter how glamorous the relationship was, remember there’s someone better out there. Being trapped in the memory of a past romance won’t bring your future soulmate.
Don’t Rush into Another Relationship
To fill the emptiness created by the absence of a partner, many people hop immediately into a fresh relationship. That’s a colossal mistake. Starting dating again without closure will unleash the vicious cycle of misery and breakup that people can’t escape. Process the relation and don’t start another romance until you have learned to spend time alone.
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What will you add? How have you recovered from a breakup? Share in the comments section and let the discussion begin.
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Thank you Rodney. Those pieces of advice are what I wished I knew in 2016. Anyways thank you commenting. Happy Valentine’s Day:)
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Thank you 🙏
Do things you love doing when you haven’t meet her fun things be a little busy with work and hangout more with the boys
Absolutely! It’s all about getting our mundane off that person.
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Sou brasileira médica clínica e Psiquiatra,tenho 3 filhos adultos com suas vidas, e nunca me casei, tive meus de um relacionamento que não deu certo. Minha paixão, minha vida ‘e ser médica é ajudar as pessoas sempre.Prazer. Sei inglês básico, apesar de ter me formado em inglês, em jornalismo e medicina e ter especialidade. Moro em Maceio, Nordeste do Brasil, amo pessoas com bom humor..
Olá, é ótimo me conectar com você. Lamento não falar português. Estou usando o Google Tradutor para me comunicar com você. Estou feliz que você visitou meu blog.
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Thanks 🙏 Triana! You too, Happy valentines 💌